My Mama

I have been crabby and a little homesick this week. My mama was here last week, and we had such a wonderful time. It was the first time mom had ever come for a visit by herself. She got lots of time with Thomas and Elizabeth and lots of "giving time." She is so generous....she would give me the shirt off her back if I said I liked it. I guess most mamas would do as such for their children. We had so much fun buying flowers for the yard, taking the twins to the zoo, playing outside. Thomas and Elizabeth had such a good time with their Mimi and sounded precious saying "Mimi, Mimi." They got her all to themselves on Friday. I went to an all day continuing education class in Columbia while Mama kept the twins. It felt extremely good to use my brain and be around other professionals. It felt good for my mom to get to spend the day with the twins. She was so funny....she got everything prepared and downstairs so she wouldn't have to take the twins back and forth until nap time. She had their toothbrushes and toothpaste in the guest bathroom, their clothes out on the couch, etc. I saw Thomas and Elizabeth as they woke up and told them "bye-bye" and "mama always comes back." They never missed a beat....no crying...I was SO glad.

Mama and David left on the same day. Mama back to Arkansas and David to Vegas for a few days. For several days now T and E have been saying, "Mimi, bye-bye." Poor David had to come home to a crabby, homesick wife.

It is time to plan a trip to the Delta.

Springtime Fun

Elizabeth and Thomas had a great time with their Nana and Grandpa Jim recently. Neither was too clingy to me though Elizabeth had her moments when she had to have only "mama help." They were only here for a couple of days, but the morning after they returned to Florida E and T both woke up saying "Nana?" I told them Nana had gone bye-bye so then they would say, "Nana bye-bye." It was really cute.

The weather has been so beautiful here lately, and we have stayed really busy with trips to the park, trips to the zoo, and lots of badly needed yard work. Thomas and Elizabeth love to "work" in the yard with mama and dada. Thomas found a caterpillar the other day and watched it for the longest time. I told him it was just like his book, The Very Hungry Caterpillar by Eric Carle, and it would eventually turn into a beautiful butterfly. The next day he looked for his caterpillar in the same spot, but it was gone.

This past Sunday we went on a family outing to the State House. It is breathtakingly beautiful....so old and lovely landscaping. Elizabeth loved the birds and was in constant search of them. She had a difficult time understanding why they flew away whenever she got close to them. Check out the photo gallery.....David got a great picture of the twins holding hands....definitely one I want to frame:)

We are welcoming my mom this evening for a week long visit. I have been telling T and E that "Mimi" is coming. I'm excited about spending some time with my mom as well as her getting to spend time with the twins.

Here's to a good week:)

Visitors!

After a pretty long visitor dry spell we have company coming. David's mom and stepdad are coming up Saturday to stay for a couple of days, and my mom will be here on Tuesday to stay for about a week. I'm looking forward to the company and to the twins' reactions to company. Elizabeth really bonded with my mom on our last visit to Arkansas. She would not hold my hand on a trip to the mall....she insisted on holding Mimi's finger. It was very cute, and my mom completely melted over the whole incident. I wonder if Elizabeth will remember Mimi.

Elizabeth, you can see!

Elizabeth got her glasses today. We talked about her glasses all the way to the optical shop but when it came time to put them on her sweet face E was not happy. The nice lady that helped us was very patient and got the glasses adjusted pretty quickly. She put a pair on me as well while E and I looked in the mirror. This seemed to help E decide to keep the glasses on long enough to see her reflection. I put her down to see what she would do. She was very deliberate with each step she took....extremely weird to watch. As soon as we got home I sat down to read with the twins. I wanted to show Elizabeth how much her glasses would help her read. I was also anxious to see her reaction. From that moment she decided she liked her glasses. She wore them for the rest of the day with no problem. She ran around the house, read books, played outside, went for a stroll...all with her glasses on her precious face.

I took some pics, but it will be a few days before I can post them. David is out of town, and I STILL don't know how to post pics on our blog.

Cute Factor

Elizabeth now makes her babies cry. She says, "waaa......waaaaa.......waaaa" and responds appropriately by loving them. It sounds and looks so cute!


On Tuesday night I took Thomas and Elizabeth to the Moms of Twins Club meeting because David was out of town. I unloaded them from the truck and realized I only had one hand for them to hold (I was holding food in the other hand). I grabbed Thomas' hand and told him to hold his sister's hand. They each grinned and held hands for about a second. I tried to tell him again and got the same response. Finally, I said, "Hold Elizabeth's hand like you hold Mommy's hand." It worked! They walked and held hands all the way to the church steps. It was just precious watching them! I wish I had it on video.


Elizabeth's glasses are in however we can't go get them. Both T and E have the flu. No cute pics with her new glasses for a while.

I'm an aunt.....again!

Karlee Malone was born at 1:05 Central Standard Time . She weighs 6lbs. 4oz. and is 19 inches long. She is beautiful! I can't believe my brother is a father. Congratulations, Sumner and Angie. You have just started a wonderful yet humbling journey. I love you and can't believe we aren't there to give Karlee a kiss.

Eye Appointment

David and I took Elizabeth and Thomas to a pediatric opthamologist this past Monday because I have a family history of amblyopia. In the brochure given to me by the doctor, amblyopia is defined as "poor vision in an eye that does not develop normal sight during early childhood." It is caused by any condition that affects normal use of the eyes and visual development, and in most cases is inherited. The best time to correct amblyopia is during infancy or early childhood. My sister has this condition and was not diagnosed until around age seven (I think) and is blind in one eye as a result. She was told by her opthamologist that all of our children should be tested around 18 months of age.

Anyway, we took the kids in to be tested. Both Thomas and Elizabeth behaved really well. Thomas wasn't crazy about the eye drops used to dilate his pupils, but we got through it. The doctor was wonderful....so soft spoken, patient, and laid back. Luckily, neither Thomas nor Elizabeth has amblyopia. However, Elizabeth is extremely farsighted and will have to wear glasses. The doctor put a lens up to both mine and David's eyes to give us an idea of what Elizabeth sees, and I was shocked. It was so blurry I couldn't make out anything. He asked had we ever suspected she might have trouble seeing, but neither one of us had. She loves to run and play and loves, loves, loves to "read" books. The doctor prescribed glasses but only for half the strength she needs so that her eyes will learn to focus. We will go back in July so he can check her vision again.

Elizabeth was really cute while trying on glasses. She kept saying "glasses" and "Dada".....she wanted to show him each pair. Once she got tired of trying them on she would say," uh-uh" and shake her head. Now I just watch her amazed at the things she can do while not being able to see very well. I guess she doesn't know any better.....it is how the world has always looked to her. I am anxious to see how she responds to her glasses. My guess would be the glasses will reinforce themselves.....being able to see with them on will make her want to wear them. In my experience as a speech pathologist that has been the case with students wearing hearing aids for the first time. We will see what happens.

Happy Birthday!

Thomas and Elizabeth are 20 months old now. They are at such a fun stage and seem so big and grown up. They eat from their own plates and are getting better at using utensils. They play and talk non-stop. Of course, most of their talking is their own language, but they are attempting more words each day. E and T keep David and I laughing constantly. E has suddenly become very attached to her pink monkey given to her by Gramps and Grandmother. She holds it smiling and says "Nini" which is how she says monkey. It is quite cute. Thomas uses the biggest question hands right now and is so deliberate when saying words. His eyes get really big and he looks so intently in our eyes making sure we are hearing him. I can't believe how fast they are growing.

I have registered Thomas and Elizabeth in a Methodist preschool for next year. They will go two days a week until noon. I am so excited about the whole experience for them. They will make friends, learn how to socialize with other adults....all without mama being there.


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David is out of town for a few days. He is actually in my "old stomping grounds."......Northwest Arkansas. How I would have loved to go on this trip with him though I know the area has changed SO much since I lived there. It has been seven years since I lived there....so hard to believe how quickly time passes and life changes. I am currently feeling very "middle aged". I look like hell when I wake up in the morning with puffy, saggy eyes. When did this happen? All of the sudden?

Amanda and I had an interesting conversation the other day about how different we are now compared to when we were 25ish. She recently went shopping with some twenty-somethings and was brought face to face with such differences.

Her trip went like this:
Amanda went straight to the sale racks.......twenty-somethings bought $160 jeans
Amanda buys black, tan, white.........twenty-somethings bought pinks, yellows, etc.


When exactly does it happen? At what age do we become so practical? I guess what is important to us changes. When I was 25 I was single and on my own spending money only on myself. Now I don't care as much about clothes and appearance but instead find delight in watching my children grow and learn.

HOME SWEET HOME

We are finally home from our adventures in Seattle. We flew out late Saturday night, and Thomas screamed hysterically the entire 5 1/2 hour flight. It was awful! At one point I wanted to ask the pilot to just land....it didn't matter where...just land the @#$$#@! plane. We survived without any of the other passengers throwing us off the plane and landed in Atlanta around 6:00 a.m. Sunday morning. Gramps was waiting for us outside and took us to his house. He fed us, and the four of us took a four hour nap. We woke up for an outstanding home cooked lunch with collard greens, rutabaga, Lima beans, field peas, and corn bread and then began the drive home. It was absolutely the LONGEST drive home EVER! We have been recouping all week with David working, me doing 20 loads of laundry, grocery shopping, and playing with babies....haven't had time to touch the cleaning. T and E haven't been feeling well, but the weather has been spring like. I have taken them outside as much as possible...David told me going outside always makes him feel better when he has a cold. I think it has worked for the twins.


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Thomas and Elizabeth had their 18-month Well Visit on Monday...I know it was almost two months late. Anyway, they had a great checkup in spite of being sick. Elizabeth is now 31 inches tall, weighs 21 pounds, and has a head circumference of 18 1/2 cm ( not really sure if it is measured in cm or in.) She is in the 25th percentile for weight and 75th percentile for head circumference! Thomas is 32 inches tall, weighs 24.2 pounds, and has a head circumference of 19 (cm or in). He is in the 50th percentile in terms of weight which is a HUGE jump for him. The pediatrician had no concerns about their physical or cognitive development. She did put E on antibiotics for a double ear infection :( Thomas' ears were clear though he shares the same snotty nose and cough as his sister. They both got two vaccinations each -- HEP A and DTAP.



Thomas and Elizabeth have grown leaps and bounds since their 15 month well visit especially in the area of expressive language. All of the sudden they have started talking. Elizabeth imitates almost everything we say (unfortunately she has already said her first cuss word) and is starting to put two words together (ie. "thank you", "doctor bye-bye") Thomas has fewer words than Elizabeth and is just beginning to imitate some words. His newest word is "bubbles" which he spotted in the washing machine today. He also said "baby" for the first time today as he lifted a baby doll out of the toy box. Thomas and Elizabeth both shake their heads for "NO" and nod their heads for "yes".



One of my concerns has been the limited variety of foods in the twins' diets. It seems to be worse at supper time, and I usually go through the pantry and five or six different foods before they will eat anything. I asked the pediatrician "at what point do I say this is what mama cooked, and this is what we are eating?" The doctor said, "Now." So, as of Monday night we have all been eating supper together.....same time, and same foods give or take a variation. It was quite a milestone. I remember about a year ago wondering when we would really eat as a family rather than the twins' meal....clean up....the grown ups' meal.....clean up. Now we have arrived. David and I just watched Thomas and Elizabeth who each had their own plates and eating utensils. They looked so big! Monday night they ate well though I had fixed one of their favorite dishes -- whole wheat tortellini with red sauce, carrots (they didn't touch), and strawberries. Monday was a good start....they haven't eaten very well since Monday night with the exception of breakfast each morning. Oddly enough I haven't been all that worried. I figure some of it could be due to them being sick or them not feeling well from their shots. Surely they will come around especially if they want dessert to come back....no pudding in several nights.



Thomas and Elizabeth are currently on one waiting list for a two day a week preschool next year. I have one more school to visit and will probably put them on that waiting list as well. They need the socialization and the exposure to other adults besides me. Elizabeth has a hard time separating right now. I know it's my fault....I rarely leave them....not because I don't want to....it is just more complicated with two and with no family close by. Hopefully, eventually, with David's new job we will move closer to family. He has an upcoming business trip to Northwest Arkansas....oh how I would love to make that trip with him.....or move there! (Don't think that will happen, but it sure would be nice!)

Date Night

Last night David and I went out on a date with Kim (his coworker) and Greg. We left Thomas and Elizabeth at Kim and Greg's house with Kim's mom, nanny, and their son Reese and went to this wonderful restaurant called Wild Ginger http://www.wildginger.net/ We had such a great time. The restaurant was beautiful, the food was divine, and the adult company was excellent. It has been so long since David and I went out on a date.....I guess the last time was a Christmas party this past December. Anyway, it was perfect.

Of course, those that babysat might not agree with my description of the night. Elizabeth cried (ahem, screamed) off and on until David and I returned. The nanny had to hide our backpack in an effort to keep E from crying. At one point during the night E laid down by the front door and cried. Thomas, on the other hand, did not miss a beat. He and Reese played all night.

Needless to say, David and I need to get out more both for us and our children.

Tonight we are meeting up with a guy from my hometown in Arkansas along with his wife and six month old boy/girl twins. I haven't seen Jonathan since 1992 and look forward to our visit.

Toddlerhood Socialization

Today I took Thomas and Elizabeth to the Science Center to play in the Toddler Area. We had a great time. T and E slid down the slide a million times, splashed in the water area and popped lots of bubbles at the bubble table. There was much less crying and fit throwing this time around in the toddler area. There were fewer children and more time for interactions with other kids. I enjoy watching and teaching the twins how to share and take turns, and they did a much better job at both skills this time versus our last visit. These skills are so hard for toddlers to learn. Thomas and Elizabeth met a little girl who was having a hard time with socializing. I shouldn't say a hard time....she was trying to say hello but did it with pulling hair and hitting. She got Elizabeth first, but it was over quickly and didn't seem to bother E much. However, when the little girl got Thomas she got two handfuls of hair and held on for dear life. The mom was begging her to let go while Thomas was screaming. Once she let go Thomas looked at me like, "What the @#$#@ just happened?" The poor mom apologized and quickly disappeared. I felt sorry for her. I wasn't upset in the least. The little girl was just being a toddler. Toddlerhood is all about socialization and figuring out the world. T and E have gone through the same thing, and I'm sure will go through it again. The mom was so embarrassed and apologetic, but I assured her I wasn't upset.....that my kids do the same things.

After the Toddler Area we went to the tropical butterfly room, and it was amazing. There were butterflies everywhere....big ones, small ones.....flying everywhere. They were really beautiful. E kept saying "pretty, pretty". Thomas wasn't into the butterfly room. He didn't like them flying close to him.

Today was another adventurous day for the twins and mom. I delight in watching their reactions to the world around them.....and the people.

Centers of Attention

Today the twins and I were invited to have lunch at David's workplace. Actually, I was informed the twins would be the "Guests of Honor." Greg (from the aquarium) came to the hotel so we could follow him to the office. Remember....I have no sense of direction and no internal compass. Anyway, we arrived and met everybody. Thomas and Elizabeth are usually very shy and a little clingy when in a crowd, but today they were like little starlets. They were friendly and independent exploring every room, every crevice of the office. They charmed everyone and were really cute (I'm biased, I know). Nikki (from the cabin) came to my rescue by bringing foods she knew T and E would eat. Also, they both ate BBQ pork....I was shocked and happily so. We arrived back at the hotel in time for their nap. All is well in Seattle.

I saw the first raindrop in Seattle this morning. I should point out that the sun is now shining, and it is warmer here than back in South Carolina.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY POPPY!

Today is my dad's birthday. He is exactly 30 years older than I am. He is the same as he always has been.....works too hard....sleeps too little......gives more than he has......doesn't take care of himself but expects his patients to.

We love you Poppy!

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Today I took the twins to the Seattle Aquarium. We met one of David's coworker's husband (Greg) and two year old son (Reese) there and had a blast. I decided to park the stroller and let Thomas and Elizabeth walk/run around. Thank goodness Greg was there though we were still outnumbered. None of the children ran in the same direction. Greg and I were constantly saying, "You watch these two while I get the other one." I spoke with Daddy this morning, and he told me to take pictures at the aquarium. HA! FAT CHANCE. By 11:00 Greg and I both felt like we had run a marathon, but the kids were just getting started:) We parted ways, and I took the twins to a restaurant on the pier thinking they would enjoy some fish. With enough ketchup they will eat anything, right? Wrong. Thankfully, I never travel anywhere without a banana and some other snack. Oddly enough today it was goldfish crackers. I didn't much care for the fish either so off we went to the car.

The car....this is where the day gets really interesting and more of a "typical Ashley" day. I locked Thomas in the car with the keys, my cell phone, and my wallet. Thank goodness the parking attendant was present, and thank goodness we were not in the middle of the summer. Thomas did really well. He smiled and looked at me as if he was wondering why his silly mama and sister were standing outside the car. He eventually fell asleep and remained that way the entire time the lock smith was trying to get into the car. I was pretty calm in spite of the whole situation. The parking attendant was an interesting man from Ethiopia and talked the lock smith into not charging me. I was sure I was going to be swindled out of at least one hundred bucks....I would have paid anything to get my son out.

Anyway, we made it back to the hotel where I fed the twins a late lunch. They are both napping now.

Still haven't seen rain in Seattle.

The Beautiful Northwest

Our weekend in the Olympic Mountains was wonderful! The Pacific Northwest is absolutely beautiful....the mountains, the water, the evergreens, the temperature. The "cabin" we stayed in was right on Puget Sound with a view of the Olympic Mountains from every single window. I use the term cabin loosely....it was a spectacular home. The company was even more spectacular. We had great conversation, great food, and great fun. We played on the beach, walked on the beach at night, saw an otter and a seal, etc. etc. Thomas ran for the water just as he did at Hilton Head Island, SC though the water here was not the same temperature. It was freezing, and he had a fit when I wouldn't let him stay in the water. I must get that child in a real swimming pool this summer:) Thomas also wanted to eat the rocks on the beach. Elizabeth loved just sitting on the beach and pointing to the birds. She would point and say, " bud." She also liked walking on the rocky beach BY HERSELF! She is so independent right now. One might not believe this, but I have not seen the first drop of rain since we arrived. It has been sunny and overcast and perfect.

It is amazing to me how different the USA is from state to state. I know that sounds like a really simple statement, but it is like a completely different country out here compared to home. The produce in the grocery store is amazing in terms of variety and freshness. I was in awe when I saw the produce section for the first time. The people out here seem so much more health conscious......they are more active, fit, seem to eat healthier. I had REAL oatmeal for the first time in my life.....steal cut (spelling?)....completely different from Quaker instant. I didn't even know there was a difference until I read it in a post on sweet/salty (a great blog of an acquaintance of mine). This visit has made me thirsty for more knowledge about nutrition. I want to do a better job of feeding my family. There is so much I don't know. As far as being fit....I have a LONG way to go. I must become fit so that my children learn the importance and want to be fit as well.

I have always wanted to go to Europe, but now I ask myself "why?" Why when there are so MANY places to see in the great United States of America?

Trainwreck

That is the one word to describe Seattle Day Three. The entire day up until a few minutes ago was a trainwreck. Last night I wrote a long post detailing the day, but there was some kind of computer error causing the loss of the post. So, since I am not in the mood to be witty or creative I will give you the quick and dirty of yesterday's events.....lost in downtown Seattle, screaming kid in backseat, no parking, vomit, vomit covered BORROWED car and BORROWED carseat, falling down fits in hall with witnesses, spankings (hairy eyeballs from witnesses), babies who would not go to sleep.

Toddlerhood has hit me between the eyes!

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On a lighter note and on to Seattle Day Four the twins and I are headed to a cabin at the base of the Olympic Mountains with the company owner's daughter, wife, and granddaughter today. It should be exciting with a ferry ride and all. I will medicate my sweet daughter who gets motion sickness. David will be joining us tomorrow evening, and we will be staying until Saturday. I can't wait to see the mountains and the twins' reaction to them. I'm also looking forward to watching them play with a new friend, Hunter who is one year younger than T and E.

Hopefully, this excursion will help me get myself in a better frame of mind after yesterday's trainwreck of a day. I have decided I don't do well with bad days.....I let the little things bother me....need to work on that.

Seattle Day Two

Today was another beautiful day in Seattle. It was a little cloudy and pretty cold as we headed to the Pacific Science Center, but the sun was shining brightly as we strolled home. Thomas and Elizabeth had a GREAT day today. Before we even made it to the science center we saw two firetrucks at the condos next to our hotel. I enjoyed seeing the firemen as much as the kids enjoyed the trucks. The science center was a blast! There was an area for toddlers only, and it was full of toys to climb on, climb through, slide down, beat on, splash in, etc. The slide was definitely the favorite. T and E climbed up the ladder and slid down at least 1,000 times. Each time they slid down the slide they had the best smiles on their faces. I tried to get some good pictures, but my trigger finger is really slow. Besides the slide T and E flew a holicopter, drove a race car, played musical pots and pans, and blew bubbles. After an hour of solid play the twins were hungry so we went in search of food. After an interesting lunch with a pretty long fit from Thomas we bundled up for the stroller ride home. On our way we saw a helicopter take off from a t.v. station's building top. Now the twins are napping, and I am about to have a cookie and some coffee.

Stay tuned for more Seattle adventures.

Seattle with the Twins

The four of us are currently in Seattle for two weeks for David's new job. We flew out of Atlanta late Saturday night in hopes that the twins would sleep for the 5 1/2 hour flight. Elizabeth was an angel while Thomas had a tougher time getting comfortable. All in all it was a good flight. We are staying in a hotel suite in downtown Seattle within walking distance to the "the needle". Yesterday we went to Target to get necessities and then all took an afternoon nap. We are all sick right now....coughing, sneezing, snotting. We will get through it.

Today has been pretty eventful so far. The people here go to work REALLY early. I guess it is because they are three hours later than the East coast. Anyway, David left for work at 6a.m. and my day started. I got myself ready and took the twins down for breakfast. After breakfast I got them dressed and we bundled up for a walk to the Children's Museum. Our first stop at the museum was in the painting room. Thomas and Elizabeth painted for the first time and loved it. Elizabeth painted her face and tasted it several times. It must have tasted good since she kept doing it. Thomas wanted to paint the block table (not a good thing). Elizabeth seems to get so frustrated with me right now. She wants to do everything by herself and has a fit whenever I try to help. Thomas is also into throwing huge fits at the moment. He throws himself into the floor kicking and screaming and bucking whenever he does not get his way. He threw a huge tantrum when I washed E's hands first. I just ignored him as all the other moms and children stared and walked past Thomas. At home I put T and E in "time out" for throwing fits. What's a mother to do in public? It has definitely gotten harder to take T and E out in public because of their venture into the "terrible two's", but it is much better for all of us to get out rather than to stay at home. The fits usually pass pretty quickly, right?

In spite of the new challenges of motherhood, we had a good first morning without Daddy in Seattle. Our future plans? The Science Center, the aquarium, the zoo.......lots to do and see in Seattle. Have I mentioned how BEAUTIFUL it is here? The snow covered mountain tops are breathtaking, and I can't get enough of the evergreens. We haven't seen a cloud in the sky so far, though that is supposed to end tomorrow.

Stay tuned for Seattle Day Two

Grandaddy is going home

Grandaddy is going home today. A week ago Friday, he was not expected to make it through the night, but he rallied and is going home today. He is not completely the same man he was before entering the hospital in that he shuffles while using a walker rather than exhibiting the long gait his six foot frame once commanded. His mind is back after taking a few "vacations." Grandaddy was always able to orient to person but got confused with time and place. Once Daddy told him he could only go home once he could walk to the bathroom he became to get out of his bed.

Apparently, some type of infection caused this whole ordeal. Grandaddy's CT scans were normal showing no evidence of stroke. His heart is worn out and causes him to sleep about 20 hours per day in order to stay alive. There is nothing meds can do at this point. In spite of all this, Grandaddy is happy and has shown a great sense of humor. He was so happy to be surrounded by his family.

I love this man. He and my grandmother taught me what family is all about...sacrifice, unconditional love, and loyalty. For this I can never thank them enough. I hope I can pass these lessons on to my own children and grandchildren.

Back to the Delta

Daddy admitted Grandaddy into the hospital via ambulance the night of all the storms in Arkansas....I forget which night it was. He had the flu. The twins and I told him good-bye Thursday morning as Jo and I prepared for the long trip home. Yesterday morning Callie called to say that Grandaddy wasn't doing well. I believe her exact words were, "He is dying." I lost it sobbing in front of Thomas and Elizabeth. I tried to stop because I didn't want to scare them, but they weren't scared. They patted me and just watched me. It was quite sweet. I booked us all tickets back to the Delta. Poor David didn't get home from Seattle until 11:30 last night. I think we slept three hours tops and are off to the airport in less than one hour.

I don't know what the next few days hold for Grandaddy. He has been in and out of consciousness since yesterday morning. I'm not ready to say good-bye, but I don't want him to stay if his days are to be spent in a bed. I do know that he is the kindest man I have ever met. He is a member of the Greatest Generation and helped save the world when he was in his early twenties. I love him and have loved him for as long as I can remember.

Hello

I am officially the worst blogger in history. So much has happened since Christmas......I guess Christmas is where I should start.

Christmas was magical. Thomas and Elizabeth didn't know what to think when they got downstairs that morning. Santa Clause was generous but not over the top. David and I loved watching their faces as they played with toys and learned how to open presents. We look forward to each Christmas getting better and better as the twins grow. I made a late Christmas lunch for David's mom and stepfather, and that turned out well. I made duck dressing for the first time, and it was delicious....shouldn't brag, but can't help it:)

Since Christmas life has just happened with the death of Alexis and then more recently the death of Daryla. Daryla was my dad's secretary and office manager and had worked for him for 25 years. I really can't remember his clinic without Daryla being present. She died of a heart attack at the young age of 46. Darlya was hysterically funny, in your face honest, and fiercely loyal to those she loved. She was one, if not the only one, who could give my dad a good cussing when needed and get away with it. I love her and can't believe she is gone. I have no doubts that she is in a much better place than the rest of us right now.

With the ringing of the New Year David accepted a new job with a poultry company in Seattle. He was not looking for a job, but this one found him and made him "an offer he couln't refuse." No, we won't be moving to Seattle. David will be working from home and will spend one week per month in Seattle. Since he took the job things have been wild at our house with one week in Seattle, one week at home, a week in Atlanta and now back in Seattle. I took the twins to Atlanta as well and spent some time with the Wright crew and then went to visit Gramps and Grandmother Jane. David will be in Seattle for the next two weeks so I am taking T and E to Arkansas....two weeks is too long to go solo besides the fact that I just want/need to get home. I have a brand new niece to meet, hugs for Amanda upon losing Alexis, and hugs for my family and friends upon losing Daryla. Jo is flying over Wednesday and we will drive together the 12 + hours to the Delta.

Needless to say, things have been crazy here, and we (adults) are worn out. I don't know if it is the twins' age or my age or the season, but I am exhausted all the time. Just walking up the stairs makes me short of breath, and I always have to make that climb twice. I know.... I am out of shape and need to exercise. It would be great for my body and my mind. Just need to make myself do it. My health is more important than a clean house, right? My weight has dropped as well. I never get on the scale, but my clothes don't fit. Eating has just become such a HASSLE! I don't have the energy to make much (when making for myself) and rarely have the time to sit and eat (not unlike any other mother out there) so it is not enjoyable. I eat when I get the shakes.....not good I know.

I'm not whining....really. Do the rest of you with toddlers feel the same way? How do I get my energy back?

Thomas and Elizabeth are great, by the way. Elizabeth has a couple of new words she learned at Brett and Amy's house. She says "kitty" and will imitate me when I am calling for Thomas. It is really cute. Thomas says "yuck" when pointing to the trash can or the recycle bins, and he really enunciates the word. They are growing so fast and challenging me at every turn.

Motherhood......so exhausing but so rewarding at the same time.

For Alexis

One of my dearest and best friends laid a daughter to rest today. Alexis was thirteen years old and was killed in a car accident the day after Christmas. She was on her way home after seeing family in Wisconsin. Alexis left behind so many people who loved her. I did not know Alexis all that well, but have known her stepmother, Amanda, for as long as I can remember. Amanda loved Alexis as her own and is devastated by her loss as is the entire family and community. I pray for peace and light for all who are missing Alexis.

As I get older death becomes so much more tragic and confusing to me...especially the death of a child. I can't imagine losing a child. The mere thought takes my breath away. Alexis' death has left me with so many questions regarding my faith. I consider myself a Christian though I am not actively working on my relationship with the Lord. I haven't stepped foot in a church since Thomas and Elizabeth were christened last Christmas Eve. I do pray daily, but they are quick prayers here and there throughout the day....not real conversations with God. I begin praying when I lay my head down at night, but I always fall asleep somewhere between "Dear Heavenly Father" and "Amen." Maybe my lack of a spiritual life is the reason I have so many questions. I don't know.

Alexis' death was a complete accident. My biggest question is does God cause accidents? He has the power to stop them from happening, right? I have never believed that God is the puppet master and controls every aspect of life on earth though He most definitely could. Such control would be no fun, right? Isn't it more rewarding for Him to see His children practice free will and still choose Him and His way? Since He didn't stop the accident why didn't he save Alexis? Did God know at the moment Alexis was conceived that she would die in a car accident.......or was it just an accident that resulted in God wanting to take her to be with Him?

The Bible says that we are not to ask why.......but how much of it does God decide? I know He decides who, but does He always decide how and when or does He just let life happen?

I have been thinking about Alexis' tragic death in two ways......1) There is so much life she will never experience....no first date.....no driver's license.......no prom....no high school graduation. The list is endless and heartbreaking. 2) There are so many grown-up disappointments she will never have to endure. Alexis left this world with her innocence. Don't all adults long for childhood innocence at some point in their lives?

I know the Atwill family will forever have a hole in their hearts from the loss of Alexis, but I also know that heaven has gained an angel.

Peace and light to you, Alexis.

Aflac?!!!!

Thomas' first word (besides mama) was Aflac....yes, I said Aflac. I heard it, David heard it, Amy and Julia even heard it. Weird, huh? Why Aflac one might ask...Nana gave the twins a duck that says Aflac, Aflac, AFLAAAAC! when squeezed. T and E love that duck.

Thanks, Nana!

Buffet Style Post

Everyone has been sick at our house...coughing, snotting, sneezing, sore throats, ear infections...we have had it all. T and E are on the upswing as they are nearing the end of their antibiotics. I'm feeling better, but David is still coughing his head off. Franny says this is just life with kids. I NEVER use to get sick. Oh well, as one of my fellow twin mamas says," It is what it is."



Thomas is walking all over the place now. He and E play chase around the kitchen squealing and laughing with delight. I have tried a couple of times to catch it on video but can't seam to get a good camera angle. I will keep trying. It is hysterical to watch though somebody always gets hurt-- usually Thomas. He is not as good on his feet as his sister just yet.



Tuesday night was the annual Mom's of Twins Club Christmas Party (for moms only). I was on the committee this year. It felt good to be involved in something. That night David was out of town so for the first time we had a babysitter that was not a family member or close friend of the family. One of the young women from My Gym watched the twins for us. T and E did fine when I left...no tears. I had moments of sheer anxiety on and off all night feeling a desparate and urgent need to go home. I know this is a sign that I need to get out more....corrections....we need to get out more (meaning David and I). I guess one of my friends could tell I was anxious because out of the blue she said, "Let it go, Ashley." Anyway, I got home around 10:00, and the twins were fast asleep. There are lots of things I need to "let go," but this is not the time or place to address them. I have thought about putting the twins in some sort of preschool, Mom's Morning Out, etc a couple of days a week to give me some time and them some time away from Mama, but I can't make my mind up. I don't want to send them somewhere for "crowd control," but want it to be a structured environment with goals for the children. On the other hand, they are young and part of me hates to start "school" at such a young age.....we go to school our whole lives it seems. I am the worst at making decisions.

CALLING ALL MY FELLOW SPEECH PEOPLE: David and I think T and E need a speech evaluation. They will be 17 months old on 12/13, and the only words E uses spontaneously are "mama" and "dada", and T only says "mama." E will imitate sounds while T imitates nothing. They do communicate with gesturing, vocalizations, and some sign but have no words yet. I'm not worried about the receptive language at all right now but am starting to get concerned about their expression. Any opinions?

And He is Off!

Thomas is walking! He started walking some at Aunt Callie's house Tuesday and really took off at Uncle Tom's and Aunt Sherri's house Wednesday night. He looks like Frankenstein holding both arms straight out in front of him and giggling with every step. Things keep getting more and more interesting in Twinland.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!

I know it isn't Thanksgiving yet, but I won't have time to make such wishes on the actual day. We are celebrating Thanksgiving in Arkansas this year, and our plan is to leave Twinland Saturday night. Instead of putting the twins to bed in their cribs we will put them in their carseats. E seems to get carsick when placed in her carseat after eating so we figure it will be better to tackle the 12 hour drive at night. I am very excited about the trip because I haven't been home since April. I know everyone is looking forward to seeing Thomas and Elizabeth. They won't believe how much they have grown. I'm anxious to see how T and E will react to all their cousins. David has new camera equipment that will allow him to take better pics inside as well as outside so I hope we have lots of pictures to share upon our return.

Happy Thanksgiving!

YIKES!

Elizabeth has three words now -- Mama, Dada, and YIKES! She imitated me saying it about a million times tonight. Thomas thought it was extremely funny. I never would have predicted that word as one of E's first.

Back from MIA

It has been too long since my last post, and so much has happened since the twins' well visit. I'm not even sure where to start and will probably not remember the exact order of all the events. The biggest event is that THE PACIFIERS ARE GONE!! The straw that broke the camel's back was one particular incident in which my precious Elizabeth woke me up screaming madly. I dashed up the stairs to find her pacifier in her hand next to her mouth.....I guess she needed me to put it in her mouth for her? The next morning I told David that the upcoming weekend we were joining forces to eliminate the pacifiers. It went better than either of us expected. The first night T and E cried for about 20 minutes. When I say cry I mean a pissed off "Give me my pacifier you !@$#@%^#$@@!" The second night they cried for 30 minutes, and each night after that the crying time decreased. Thomas was over it after night three, but Elizabeth took about five nights to get over it. Whew! Glad that hurdle has been jumped and left behind.

The second milestone/event was that Thomas had his first "big boy" haircut. Bless his heart, his hair was so long if he had been Thomasita I would have used a barrette to keep it out of his eyes. David made an appointment at a "real" barber shop in Columbia, and we met there one evening around 5:45. Elizabeth threw up in the truck right in the middle of downtown Columbia so I didn't get to see the event. David took Thomas inside while I cleaned E up and the truck up. By the time I finished David was back at the truck holding a baby boy who looked like he was about three. David reported that Thomas screamed the entire time. In spite of his behavior he has a very nice looking hair cut. Needless to say, with me outside and David trying to console Thomas we have very few pictures.

The third milestone was really more of a "mommy milestone." I spent my first night away from the twins since their days in the NICU. David has a customer in Pennsylvania who invited us to the Penn State v Ohio State football game. Gramps and Grandmother Jane were our first overnight babysitters. They drove in Friday night, and I flew out Saturday morning ( I was so sick but wanted to go anyway). I did better than I thought I would. I had pumped myself up all week, and was fine the whole time I was gone. I knew Gramps and Grandmother would take good care of the twins....I was never worried about that. Anyway, T and E did fine and reacted very strangely when David and I returned home. They just looked at us like, "Oh, you are back," and went about their business.....no excitement....nothing. I think they had a great time and wore Gramps and Grandmother out. They ate well, napped well, played well, and slept well at night. It was a successful weekend.

Halloween was lots of fun. I was too sick to take the twins to any of the pre-Halloween activities I had planned but was feeling much better when the actual night arrived. T and E were "Cuddly Elephants" for Halloween though David says they were "Roll Tide Elephants" (he never mentioned the Roll Tide bit until after Halloween was over. I made sure they had their Razorback onesies on under their costumes.) We only took them to three houses in the neighborhood and then went to the Kernen's (their adopted grandparents) house. Thomas and Elizabeth were good sports even though they were tired and not particularly fond of their head pieces. We didn't get pics that night because it was too dark but will take pics in their costumes this weekend. They really were adorable...I'm not partial -- not me.

We are starting Storytime at the library tomorrow, and I am really excited about it. The twins love books and love to be read to. I will let you know how it goes.

Well Visit

Elizabeth and Thomas had their 15 month Well Visit yesterday. It was an interesting visit in that both of them had a fit before the doctor came in to see them. Thomas' fit was so bad his entire body was covered in red hives when the doctor came in. "What's going on?" she asked. I answered, "You just missed his fit." She smiled and said, "That would explain the hives." Besides that their visit went well. Thomas weighs 22 lbs. 15 oz. and is 29 3/4 inches long. Both of these fall in the 25th percentile for his age and gender which is a BIG jump for him. He is finally in the "white area" of the chart :) Elizabeth weighs 19 lbs. and 13 oz. and is 28 1/2 inches long which puts her in the 5th percentile for her age and gender...still in the "red area" of the chart. Sweet Elizabeth may never reach 20lbs! Both T and E are proportionate in height and weight so no worries. Thomas' head circumference is 18 1/4 cm, and Elizabeth's is 18 cm. I can't remember the percentiles for these measurements...their brains are growing!

So far, T and E don't seem to feel bad from their shots. I took them to My Gym after their appointment yesterday, and playgroup met at the zoo today. They had such a good time at the zoo. They loved the bears, monkeys, penguins and sea lions. I wish I had taken the video camera. They both got so excited whenever they saw the animals. E kept pointing and talking while T squealed and waved his arms. I love to see them react to the world around them. They have been to the zoo four times now and seem to enjoy it more with each visit. I had a good time too. I enjoy the conversation with the other ladies.

All in all we have had one busy week. We went to My Gym Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday; saw the pediatrician on Wednesday; and went to the zoo today. That means tomorrow we will HAVE to go grocery shopping. Lately, T and E have been really impatient while grocery shopping. Imagine that....impatient 15 month olds. I can't say much because I am not a very patient person myself. We will have to get the shopping done tomorrow. I try to stay clear of the store on the weekends....it is a mad house.

Off to watch some mindless t.v.

15 Months

Elizabeth and Thomas are 15 months old now and seem so big....not babies anymore.

Elizabeth is walking more and more though she still prefers crawling or pushing her "scooter" as David calls it. She can point to her nose, head, mouth, and eye but still gets a little confused at times. She likes to point to said items on other people too. She waves "bye-bye" and says mama and daDI. E continues to love books and will bring books to us to read. E likes to point to pictures as we read. She likes to "pat-pat" her brother and will lay her head on him to "love" on him. Sometimes T tolerates this but not always. E has become a picky eater and changes her mind frequently about what she likes. Cheese is the only constant....and fruit. She uses the signs for "milk, more, and all done" mostly during meal time though she will sign to request milk after naptime. She pretty much uses the sign for milk to mean any sort of drink. Elizabeth follows some simple commands (ie "give thomas his bib, hand me a diaper, bring it to me"), and she laughs out loud when she farts --definitely our child :)

Thomas walks really well when holding two hands and just yesterday started walking while only holding one of David's hands....it won't be long. He is SO fast when pushing his scooter now that he is practically running. He too loves his books and "throws" books at us that he wants us to read. Just like his sister, he loves to point to pictures for us to name. His dog book is definitely his favorite. I'm not sure how long it will last before we need to buy him another one. T says mama, but that is his only word right now. He waved "bye-bye" today for the first time while I read Pat the Bunny! It was wonderful! Thomas is a pickier eater than his sister right now and changes his mind daily on his likes/dislikes. Like E, cheese and fruit are his constant likes. He uses the signs for "more and all done" and screechingly refuses to use the sign for milk :) He will point to it though.....much better than his screaming. T follows some simple commands (i.e. "bring it to me, show me the tractor, get your dog book"). Thomas is my behavioral challenge at the moment. He throws kicking, bucking, screaming fits especially when having his diaper changed. I tried to ignore them but have started putting him in "time out" for his fits which consists of a pack and play in our bedroom. Once he calms down I go and get him and explain that big boys don't throw fits. One day I'm sure he will get me for writing these posts....oh well.

We are still taking the twins to My Gym and more classes for their age group have been added. I am going to try to get them there at least three times a week. We are meeting up for playgroup with about five other moms once a week, and that is going really well. T and E love to play with their friends. I will try to take some pics next time. I am also planning on registering them for story time at the local library which is held once a week. They will love that, and so will I. I have heard it is hard to get registered because the classes fill up fast. We will keep our fingers crossed.

I am taking E and T to the pediatrician for their 15 month well visit this Wednesday and will post their growth updates.

I'm off to do my Monday chores :)

Sick

I slept with Elizabeth last night for the first time in a LONG time. Everyone in our house is sick though Thomas and Elizabeth have it the worst. ( I don't think I am sick) Crud...lots of crud... in their noses, chests, etc. Ears were clear as of Monday. Anyway, E was coughing with almost every breath it seemed in spite of her new medicine that is supposed to stop the cough. So, I put her in the guest bed with me. I sat up and she slept on my chest. That is how she slept when we first brought her home from the hospital because she was so congested from reflux. She is in her bed now.....hope she sleeps better tonight.

Thomas, on the other hand, slept pretty well for a sick fella. I only remember going in to see about him once last night.

I'm keeping them home this week -- no My Gym, no play group -- just the errands that have to be run. Hopefully they will be well soon.

Elizabeth Can...

Family Coming

We haven't had any company since the twins' birthday party so we are excited about our company coming. Auntie, Uncle Gary, and cousin Eric will be here this afternoon. T and E have never met their Uncle Gary or cousin Eric so that should be exciting. Gramps and possibly Grandmother Jane will be arriving tonight. Great Uncle Jimmy is coming in Friday. I should probably mention Daddy will be home today. He has been out of town on business since Monday. We have lots planned for our company like going to the zoo, Edventure, and shoe shopping. Now that T and E spend so much time walking with their walker thingys they need some shoes. Hopefully, Auntie will help me take the twins shopping.


I'm off to enjoy my quiet time and coffee.

I am Speed

One of Thomas' first pair of pajamas had a character from the cartoon movie "Cars" on the front. In big letters across his chest were the words "I am Speed." One night I read it to Thomas in a silly voice. "I am Speed, I am Speed" He giggled everytime I said it. So for a while it kind of stuck and for several months I knew if I said "I am Speed" in that voice, I could make him laugh. There's nothing better than hearing the twins laugh so whenever I can figure out how to do it I make the most of it.

When the twins learned how to walk behind their little walker-thingys, they gained a new kind of "freedom." Sometimes it's as if they're racing each other around the house. Elizabeth so far has the speed advantage, but I'm sure it won't be long before Thomas is giving her a run for it. It's so fun to watch them race around the house so we thought we'd share it with everyone via a new video we call "I am Speed."

Sleep deprived.......again

David and I are once again sleep deprived. Why? I have one word.....PACIFIERS. We are up and down the stairs 4 maybe 5 times each night looking for pacifiers with a pin light. It is driving me CRAZY! I would rather be up nursing every three hours.....at least I would be providing nourishment while being sleep deprived and would know about what time I could expect to be up again. Pardon the crankiness. David and I are both puzzled.....should we take the pacifiers away? We think it is time......Can we take the crying? Now that the twins are out of the "crying it out" phase we will definitely have to psyche ourselves back up for more crying phases. Everything we (david) has read says the longer we wait the harder it will be.

Any advice?

Mama

Thomas called me Mama tonight. I wasn't sure if he was calling me mama or just babbling, but he would say it as he crawled toward me. This happened several times. I can't put into words how it made me feel...how I am still feeling.

Play Group

We went to our first playgroup yesterday and had a great time. Blair, one of the moms who I met at My Gym organized the group. I have been wanting to do something in addition to My Gym to increase the twins' chances for socialization with other kids but am not the organizer/leader type. Five moms, including me, met for lunch and then went to Blair's house so the kids could play. Elizabeth and Thomas had a great time and loved Mily's toys. The grown-ups had a good time as well. I was afraid Thomas would be the only boy, but there were two others. We are going to meet again next week.

It is so bittersweet watching T and E grow. I watch proudly as they play independently and alongside other children, and then they come to me with hugs or pats as if to say " ah, there you are" and are off again. I want my children to grow into little independent people ready to take on the world all the while knowing they have me as a safety net.

Thomas pulled up today!

I am sad to say that I did not see him do it, but Thomas pulled up to stand in his pack and play. I was in the bathroom getting dressed and heard him talking very loudly and happily. I peaked in and he was standing up smiling at me! He has been trying very hard to pull himself up...what a work ethic my boy has. All that hard work paid off today.

Smiles from Twinland :)

13 Months Old

Happy Birthday Elizabeth and Thomas! They turned 13 months old yesterday. My how things have changed in one month. The only baby food they eat now is the fruits and the cereal. They love deli meat, cheddar cheese, provolone cheese, scrambled eggs, yogurt, green beans, stewed carrots, new potatoes, tortellini with red sauce, graham crackers, and bagel (whole wheat and blueberry). They also love fresh banana, peaches, and plum. Thomas likes cantaloupe and pineapple, but Elizabeth does not. It is so funny watching them feed themselves. They will look at the table to see what their other choices are and definitely let me know when they are not happy with whatever food I have picked up for them. They are down to one bottle a day, and it is at bedtime. T and E are doing much better with cow's milk, thank goodness. I have started giving them a cup of water when they wake up from their afternoon nap. They are usually pretty thirsty. They still take two naps a day. Every time I think they are about to fade their morning nap out they fool me. It makes no difference to me. I figure they will let me know when they don't need that morning nap anymore.

T and E went to a birthday party last Friday and had a great time. They ate cupcake for the first time. They were homemade and delicious...or at least Thomas and I thought so. Elizabeth did not like them. I can't believe I have a child who won't eat a cupcake. I'm sure it is a passing phase :) They had Capri Sun in their cups and sucked it down! The three of us had a good time. It was a great way to get the weekend started.

Elizabeth is cruising around the furniture now and walking behind a push toy completely by herself. I'm guessing she will be walking by Thanksgiving. Thomas loves to walk behind the push toy too but is not as steady on his feet. We have a baby gate for their bedroom door but need some for the kitchen. I need some way to keep them better contained....for their safety.

The more they move the busier I get.

Thomas is mobile!

Yes, you correctly read the title....Thomas is mobile! He has been so frustrated lately watching his sister move all over the place, but he has finally found his own way of crawling. Until today we weren't sure how he was moving. We would put him in one area of a room and a few minutes later would see him in a totally different area. Don't think we leave him unattended...For example, while I was bathing Elizabeth I left Thomas in their room (door gated) by the bookshelf. When Elizabeth and I returned to the nursery he was by the door. This evening when David got home we saw Thomas' version of crawling. He sort of moves like a crab....he moves by getting on both hands, one knee, and one foot and then sits and then repeats the whole sequence. Make sense? We are going to try to get it on video. I was almost in tears tonight when he moved himself from the kitchen to the living room -- the first time he has ever been able to get to another room without assistance. He was SO proud of himself.

Yay Thomas!

Feeling Brand New

I went to a Moms of Twins Club meeting last night and feel like a brand new woman. I spent two hours with women! I had an uninterruped dinner, yummy dessert, and lots of conversation. I joined a few committees and am looking forward to our upcoming consignment sale. I am determined to be an active participant this year because I need the socialization, and the twins need time with someone other than me. I left the twins with David, and Thomas was screaming when I walked out the door...not because I was leaving. We weren't sure why he was so mad, but he got over it quickly I was told. David had leftovers in the frig for supper and had good play time with the twins before giving them their bottles and putting them to bed. When I got home all was quiet. I'll bet David enjoyed the night as much as I did.

Opinions are like.....

b---holes...Everybody has one and most of them stink. That is what I wanted to tell a lady at Wal-Mart yesterday. The twins and I were doing our grocery shopping when a lady noticed that T and E had pacifiers in their mouths. It's no secret...our babies are attached to their pacifiers. They LOVE them. I challenge anyone to get them to sleep without one. The lady was quick to let me know that she took the pacifier away from her children once they turned one ---"but your twins can't be one yet. They are so small." I answered, "They are small for their age, but they were preemies." Once she found out my babies were one she began her lecture of the whens, whys, and hows of getting rid of the pacifier. When I say lecture I am not using the term loosely. This stranger was giving me "a talking to" about how I really needed to take the pacifiers away. I was very polite and said several times, "I am just not ready to take on that challenge."

Why do strangers feel the need to give their opinions concerning children and how to raise them?

Lifesavers of the First Year

Now that the birthday party has come and gone along with all the company I have had moments here and there to reflect on the twins' first year of life. I have gone back and read twinchronicles from the beginning and been so happy David decided we start our own blog. While it hasn't been the greatest blog -- I'm not a gifted writer -- it has served its purpose in keeping our family members up to date on the twins and their continuous development. As I have looked back I have tried to come up with a list of things that "saved our lives" this first year. They may not work for all new parents and some may not agree with them, but they worked for us. Take them or leave them:

1. On Becoming Baby Wise by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam
This book was recommended by some good friends of ours while I was pregnant, and it saved our lives in terms of getting the twins on a good eating/sleeping schedule. I have found more bad reviews of "Babywise" on the internet than good, but it worked for us. I have found most moms who belong to the Moms of Twins Club recommend this book and its principles as well.

2. Jennifer from grad school
A mother of two small children herself she answered every "HELP!" email I sent. She was so supportive and non-judgemental when T and E were screaming rather than napping, and her advice helped tremendously. I can hear her saying "consistency is key." No matter how stupid my questions were from letting the twins cry to what to feed them and when Jennifer was always ready to help.

3. My huge nursing pillow from Aunt Peggy
Being able to nurse my twins at the same time was a huge lifesaver in terms of time management and sleep for both me and David. I don't know what I would have done without that thing. David has asked if we still need it....I'm not ready to let go of it (haha). I loved nursing T and E!!

4. Breastfeeding Class
I took this class while I was pregnant and am so thankful I did. Most of what I thought I knew about breastfeeding was wrong. Taking the class was extremely helpful and lessened the stress once the twins were born.

5. The Lactation Center
Every single lactation specialist I came into contact with was wonderful. They came to my room when the twins were born.....there was one present the first time I tried to nurse each of the twins in the NICU....one came to see me before Thomas was discharged and before Elizabeth was discharged....I have called the Warm Line (help hotline) numerous times and been called back every single time....they fit me for good nursing bras ( my boobs were HUGE and my Target bra was not getting the job done.), weighed the babies for free....let me nurse the twins in the Lactation Boutique....the list goes on and on.

6. Baby Swings
Before we bought the swings David and I never got to eat supper at the same time or without one of the twins screaming in the background. We bought swings that sit low to the ground, play music, and have a "light show". Thomas and Elizabeth loved them from the start. We have used them for so many different activities....they drank their bottles in the swings, watched Baby Einstein (while David and I ate supper) in their swings, had juice time on the porch, etc. As of this week they have outgrown their swings. They now have their cups in their booster seats and watch Baby Einstein while sitting on the floor.

*** If there is one regret I have in terms of using area resources for help it would be joining the Moms of Twins Club earlier. I didn't join until January of this year and haven't been able to be as involved as I would have liked to be. If I could do it over I would have joined while I was pregnant. The club is so helpful to those on bed rest or those with babies in the NICU. I wish I would have had access to this wonderful group of ladies before the twins were born. I would definitely recommend to any woman pregnant with multiples to find an area Moms of Twins or Moms of Multiples group. Whenever I have questions about the twins I can email the group and get tons of answers and differing opinions. It is a great resource. I plan on becoming more active with the group now that the twins are older. I need the friends, and the twins need "Daddy Time".

Of course, our family members and friends have been great as well, but these "top six" are tips that anybody could use (except the Jennifer one....not going to post her email address).

I hope this post helps anyone out there who might be expecting more than one miracle.

1st Time at the Beach....and Measles

Thomas and Elizabeth had their first beach experience recently. Last Sunday we drove to Hilton Head to visit Tim and Helen, some friends who used to live in Georgia but now live in Delaware. They go to HH every summer with their family and were nice enough to invite us to stay with them for a few days. It is only a three hour drive from us so we took off when it was time for the twins' morning nap. They were good travelers though they did not have much of a nap. We went to the pool Sunday afternoon -- the resort had a great baby pool. T and E LOVED it crawling, splashing, going under (accidentally), swallowing water, etc. They were not the least bit afraid of the water. On Monday we took them to the beach once they woke up from their morning nap, and they really loved it. I was certain Elizabeth wouldn't like the sand since she has her "sensory issues", but she proved me wrong. They both loved playing in the sand....the wet sand where the surf came in. They loved the water. We really had to watch E because she would crawl in the water deeper and deeper without stopping. It didn't matter if it was covering her mouth/face she just kept crawling. They both made funny faces whenever they got saltwater in their mouths! I remember my first taste of the ocean...Yuck! E was good about keeping her sun hat on, but T didn't like his. We finally gave up on his hat. No worries...they were bathed in sunscreen... Helen and I made sure of that. Helen's family had a huge tent like contraption that the twins sat under to have their lunch. The weather was perfect -- not too hot and there was a nice breeze blowing. T and E played a little after eating their lunch but were getting sleepy. We took them to the pool to get some of the sand off, and then they both had baths and a nice long afternoon nap. David and I had a nap as well -- we were on vacation, right?

The entire trip was wonderful! There were lots of grown-ups and big kids who played and fussed over the twins. T and E loved the attention, and David and I loved having the breaks. We haven't gotten to visit with Tim and Helen much at all since we got married so that was nice as well. It was refreshing for me to get out of the house and around other adults. The sun was heavenly and no gnats there! The gnats are so awful at our house that we rarely go outside...they swarm T and E.

We have lots of cute pictures from the trip and will post them soon.

Now the twins aren't feeling so well. They have slight cases of the measles from their vaccinations. Technically, they have not had a fever (E's was 100.5 tonight....pediatrician does not consider that a fever) so I hope we have not exposed anyone so far. I didn't realize what was going on until Friday afternoon. When I spoke to the nurse she talked to me like I was an idiot. I have a good mind to call and complain about her. I definitely have my moments (numerous moments) of insecurity as a firt time mom, and the last thing I need is to be "talked down to" when I am concerned for my children's health. I can't imagine I am the only mom in history to call about vaccination concerns. I read the information sheets about each vaccination but wanted to talk to a health professional to ease my mind. Initially I thought it might be a sun rash, but the more I thought I kept hearing my inner voice saying "vaccinations.....vaccinations... vaccinations." It clearly states on each info. sheet to call/report any concerns. Anyway, I haven't decided whether I will call and complain or not. Any opinions out there?

Birthday Party Recoup

The last of our company is gone. Callie flew out about 5:30 yesterday evening. I am always so sad when my family leaves but try to keep my tears to myself. No need to upset anybody if it can be avoided, right?

The birthday party was a success. The food was great ( I did not cook...had it catered) and friends and family were wonderful. David and I were afraid Thomas and Elizabeth would be miserable with so many people and so much noise, but they had a blast. They enjoyed their cousins, enjoyed hamming it up for pictures before the festivities began, enjoyed birthday cake, and they enjoyed playing while I, along with their cousins,opened gifts. Most of our family seemed to be happy with how things went. I wanted the day to be a celebration of life...the twins' first year. David and I are so blessed to have been given these extraordinary children, and to have had the ability to celebrate their first year. Many parents don't get that much time with their children. As parents our children are a gift from God....on loan until he is ready to call them home.

On a much lighter note, Callie went with me to the pediatrician's office on Monday for the twins' 12 month well visit. Thomas weighed in at 20 lbs and 1 oz, and measured 28 inches long. Elizabeth weighed in at 17 lbs and 8 oz and measured 27 1/2 inches long. They remain in the 5th and tenth percentiles in terms of height and weight -- not a concern because they are proportionate. Neither David nor I are big adults so we don't expect to have big children. Thomas is not crawling, but the doctor was not concerned....she said crawling was no longer considered a developmental milestone because it is not really necessary. She did say that she wanted Thomas to be able to pull to stand independently and to get from a lying position to a sitting position independently by his 15 month checkup. If he is not performing those two skills by then she will send him to an orthopedist and a physical therapist. Callie who is a physical therapist gave me some exercises to do with Thomas to help him along. She also told me to "stop giving in to him" when he fusses. I have already had him working this morning. As you know, I have been concerned with the twins' milk intake and talked to the pediatrician about this as well. She said they needed at least 12 oz of milk a day but no more than 20 oz. If I can't get them to drink 12 oz a day then focus on calcium rich foods such as yogurt, cottage cheese and other cheeses. She was not opposed to giving them strawberry or chocolate milk -- just wants them to get their calcium. I feel much better now that I have some guidelines and won't feel like a bad mom if I have to resort to choc. milk. They each got three shots (MMR, HepA, and chicken pox) one in each arm and one in a leg. I am so glad Callie was with me to comfort them. Needless to say they were both mad. I don't think I have ever heard Elizabeth scream that loud. All in all in was a good checkup.

Here's to another year full of excitement!

Hide and Seek

Elizabeth has developed a new game for mommy now that she has discovered the freedoms her mobility has allowed. She hides things....toys, diapers, books. Lately, during my nightly ritual of picking up toys I have been unable to find blocks, puzzle pieces, etc. Yesterday I discovered that Elizabeth had put those items up for me but in her own place. She likes to hide things in the changing table, under the changing table, and her swing. I laugh each time I find a toy in a new place. She seems to have so much fun taking things out of place and finding a new place for them. She is such her own little person. Today she learned she could take the diapers out of the diaper hanger and spread them on the floor. We played a great game of throwing them up in the air and watching them fall. Thomas laughed until he couldn't breathe! He loved this game.

Speaking of Thomas, he has developed quite a temper. I think he is becoming frustrated that he can not move and get things that he wants which results in him screaming at the top of his lungs. Several times this morning he was so mad I had to just leave him be to have his fit. Other times he wanted me to hold him, but it lasted for about a millisecond, and he would fling himself in the floor. Where did my easy going baby boy go? Poppy will love Thomas' temper.....says I need to pay for my raising.

We are welcoming our first round of family tonight. Mama, Jo, Grace, Caitlyn, Caroline, and MaryJo are on their way, and I am so excited! I can't wait to see them. I think David is excited too.

Gotta go...naptime almost over.

Progress at the Gym!

I took Elizabeth and Thomas to My Gym yesterday morning, and they had such a good morning! Neither one of them cried until the very end of the class, and I am assuming it was because they were tired. Elizabeth didn't cry during separation time at all. I was so proud of her! She crawled off to do her own thing several times, and after a few minutes would look back to see where I was. I was completely thrilled! They both tried new skills....no crying. I should mention it was a calmer class with fewer children, and the children were weirdly calm. They all must have been tired from Independence Day celebrations. I'm hoping this is a sign that they won't be too miserable at their birthday party with all of the family and friends we are expecting.

Both Elizabeth and Thomas drank their milk at lunch yesterday, but they did not drink much today....disappointing. We will keep trying. They are both napping now. Time to do some much needed housework. I've been so busy running errands and making phone calls this week that I haven't done my "daily chores". Hmmm, I hate the way that sounds.

News

It turns out my husband is a pretty smart guy. I tried his recommendation -- giving the twins milk before their solids today at lunch, and it worked. Both T and E drank a little over 3 ounces of very cold cow's milk Yay!

They have actually tried many new table foods so far. Here is a list:

Turkey (deli meat) T liked, E did not
Ham (deli meat) T liked, E did not
Cheddar cheese T liked, E did too
PBJ sandwich T liked, E did too
Whole wheat bread T liked, E did not
Biscuit with jelly T liked, E did too

I plan on trying cantoloupe this evening. They are ever changing little people.

Chocolate Chip Cookies!

I made cookies yesterday during the twins' afternoon nap. It was the first time I have baked since they were born. David had hinted several times for me to make CC cookies, and we were going to a cook out last night so I thought I would bake. They turned out really well! When David got home from work he shared his cookie with T and E, and they LOVED it! Not really such a big surprise to me. CC cookies before birthday cake....had not been my plan but who cares? It was funny listening to their "more" sounds, especially Thomas' sounds.

Gotta go! Pack and play time is over.

Two Refusals!

Neither T nor E would drink their milk after lunch today. They had green beans and rice and strawberry yogurt -- shared about 14 oz. Maybe they were too full? I'm not sure because after they ate I had a sandwich and a banana. Thomas wanted some turkey and did well eating it. He and E both had some banana with me so I am thinking they couldn't have been too full for milk. David suggested we try giving them the milk first and then giving them solids....I don't know....

Gym -- Milk Update

I took the twins to My Gym this morning, and they both had a better day. They still cried some, but Thomas more willingly tried new skills even laughing during some of them but crying a little after each was over. Elizabeth tried as well but cried during each try. She cried again during separation time....practice, practice. Thomas has done well with the separation time ( I should mention here that Thomas loves women and is surrounded by pretty girls during separation time) but doesn't like the clean up afterward. He doesn't want to put the balls up......LOVES THEM! I was exhausted when we got home..so out of shape! Thought about napping during the twins' afternoon nap, but decided against it.. would be a waste of time. I cut foam for my dining room chairs instead -- fun fun!

Neither T nor E drank much cow's milk today, but they ate more solids than usual. I did not give either one a bottle of formula but did try formula in a cup for E. She refused so I thought I would go with it....see what happens. The worst case scenario would be waking up early from nap wanting something to eat. So far that has not happened. I'm guessing that now is the time that food will become more important than fluid intake? I talked to Daddy about it this morning, and he said some babies just don't like milk.... give her water or juice and make sure she eats well. Of course, he encouraged me to keep trying the milk.....sometimes it just takes time. I don't like milk myself, but I don't want to impose my likes or dislikes on my children.

I got the twins' birthday outfits in the mail today, and they are just precious! I'm not sure if Thomas' will fit so I will have to try it on as soon as he wakes so I can exchange it if necessary. I spent more than I should have, but you only have one first birthday, right? It's only money, right? We can't take it with us when we go...Besides, I plan on having A LOT of things to sell at the twins club consignment sale in the fall.


Birthday party countdown.... 1 week and four days.

New Experiences.....New Refusals

We had a great weekend with Aunt JoJo and Poppy. It was hard to see them leave this morning as is always the case when I have to say good-bye. They will be back in two weeks though for the birthday party. Thomas and Elizabeth had a good time with them both, and David took some outstanding pics. He never disappoints, that husband of mine.

Yesterday we tried giving the twins cow's milk in their cups following their lunch. Thomas drank a little bit, but Elizabeth kept spitting her milk out. So, I ended up giving them both a bottle of formula. I tried again today, and Thomas drank a little over 3 ounces (yay!) Elizabeth spit hers out again and drank a bottle of formula. Our baby girl is remaining true to form...she refused the bottle at first and now cow's milk. She takes her juice really well from the cup so I know the cup is not the issue. We will keep trying. I guess we may have to try soy milk if she continues to spit her cow's milk out. No worries at this point.

Any advice from those who have been there?

Birthday party countdown....two weeks.

Another day at the gym...

I took the twins to My Gym again this morning, and there were three sets of twins there counting Thomas and Elizabeth. Weird, huh? There were lots more kids present today than there were Tuesday. It went a little better for Thomas. He cried less and seemed a little more comfortable. He could not take his eyes off Mr. Travis, the teacher. Both T and E enjoyed the opening circle time which included some silly warm up activities and songs. They both clapped, grinned, and giggled a little bit. Elizabeth had a tougher day today. She cried almost everytime I put her down. No worries though. It will just take some time for them to get used to it all. Again, I was exhausted and sweaty after the class. T and E were so tired neither of them made a sound on the ride home. I was afraid they had fallen asleep, but they had not. They had a great lunch and are napping at the moment. When they wake up they will have three big surprises... Daddy will be home (he has been out of town since Wednesday), and Poppy and Aunt JoJo will be here too.

I can't wait!

Big Day

The twins had a really BIG day today! I took them to a place called My Gym which I am assuming is a lot like a Gymboree. David and I have been recently discussing the twins' need to get out around other kids and adults and my need to do the same. So, today was the day. We were in a class for 23 months to 2 1/2 year olds because the class for the twins' age group is during their morning nap. I think it went well considering it was their first time, and there were ten other children present along with their moms. They did cry quite a bit....when "performing a skill" with the teacher or when another child screamed with delight.....all things they need to get used to and will I am sure of it. There was a portion of the class designated to working on separation anxiety in which the moms went to the lobby area (still in the same room...it is all one huge room). The teacher sat Thomas in a turtle sandbox that was full of plastic balls, and he never even knew I was gone...he loved it. Elizabeth screamed, and I do mean screamed the entire time. Again, something they need to learn. I told Elizabeth upon my return that "mommy always comes back." I was thrilled with the program and the teacher though completely exhausted after the class. I plan on taking the twins at least twice a week. I would like to take them on some Saturdays so David can go as well.

Once we got home from My Gym the twins were ready for their lunch which included some new foods. I gave them some really soft bite size carrots to try. Thomas liked them but got frustrated trying to feed himself. He squeezed them to bits in his chubby little hands. Elizabeth did not like the carrots but had a great time squeezing them and trying to throw them in the floor....a behavior I need to address quickly. They also ate some graham crackers for the first time and both loved them. Of course it was easier for T and E to feed themselves the crackers so there was no frustration. Unlike his sister, Thomas does not like it when food hits the floor. He stares at it and vocalizes as if saying, "hey mama, pick that up....it is supposed to be in my mouth."

I think all of these new adventures in one day has made T and E so tired. I bet they have a good afternoon nap.....I hope.

New play area....new favorite game

Until recently the twins play area was a large quilt in the living room floor. That worked out well until E started crawling everywhere. Gone are the days of sitting her down and being able to walk out of the room without worrying about what she can get in to. We have a sitting area in our kitchen that has been empty since we moved in. My plan has always been to buy a rug and move the twins' play area into the kitchen since that is where we (David, me and babies) are most of the time. David surprised me with a new rug Monday night (yea!) On Tuesday I moved everything into the "keeping room" which is what I have been told is the proper name for the sitting area. I love it, T and E love it, we all love it! The twins have found a new game since their play area has been moved. E will get her round blue block and toss/roll it around and chase after it. T loves to watch her and now joins in. Of course, I chase his block for him at this point. It is great fun for all of us though I suspect crawling on the hardwood is harder on my knees than E's.

I will try to get it on video.

T has a tooth!

T has a tooth barely poking through!

l.////////////////////////d says E


b says T

Happy Father's Day

Ten years ago I took my father out to dinner to celebrate Father's Day. A short time later, I received a letter from him. In the letter he thanked me for dinner, offered me some fatherly advice, and closed with this:

"Someday I hope you have a son to love as much as I love you."

I came across this letter a few weeks ago while re-arranging my closet. I didn't even remember saving it but I'm sure glad I did.

You see, eleven months ago my father's hope was realized when my son Thomas was born. On the same day I was blessed to not only have a new son to love but a beautiful daughter as well.

The meaning of Father's Day has changed forever for me now. Now I know that there is nothing in the world more special than being a father. I strive to be as good a father to Elizabeth and Thomas as my Dad is to me.

Happy Father's Day, Dad.

Someday I hope my son loves me as much as I love you.

Rest in peace, sweet Liam

My blogging friend lost one of her twins this morning. He recently had a shunt put in to relieve pressure off his brain from hydrocephaly. The doctors found he had much more damage to his brain than the ultrasounds had shown. Little Liam fought as long as he could...it was just too much for him. He passed away while lying on his mother's chest next to his father. May he feel peace as well as his family.

Another sweet angel in heaven....

I am thankful for Kate allowing us to share in her story and have been touched by her and her sweet family in an indescribable way. To read her story go to http://ingliseast.typepad.com/

11 Months Old!

Yesterday, Thomas and Elizabeth turned 11 months old! They had a pretty good day though they have been a little puny. I took them to the pediatrician on Monday because they have been REALLY fussy and playing with their ears. I thought they might be teething, but being a speech pathologist I was worried they might have an ear infection. Their ears were clear, no new teeth emerging, but they both had really red throats. They were negative for strep (whew!) so it may be viral. The doctor said to watch them and bring them back in if they get worse. Here's to getting better!


The twins went swimming for the very first time on Sunday! Our friends Marcus and Ann invited us over to their house for the afternoon to swim with their girls. They have a beautiful pool area in their backyard. Thomas and Elizabeth loved it! They didn't even seem to mind being coated with sunscreen. Their sun hats stayed on for most of the swim....they are not too fond of them but are learning. I fed them their supper poolside, and all went well until bottle time. That is when Thomas started having a "come apart". That was the moment that I felt like something was wrong with him and possibly Elizabeth.


Let's see....at eleven months what have they learned?


Elizabeth is crawling EVERYWHERE, clapping her hands and pulling to her knees consistently. She has pulled to stand a couple of times now. Bless her heart, she falls and hurts herself all the time now. E has two teeth but chews on everything...maybe more are coming? The bumper pads are out of her crib so she doesn't have anything to snuggle with as she did before. E seems to be doing ok with this but not sure mama and daddy are. It just seems so cold and hard without the bumper pads. Blankets aren't an option -- David says no...he is afraid of suffocation -- besides the fact that Elizabeth sleeps all over the place. There is absolutely no way she would stay covered up, and the blanket would wind up in the floor along with her pacifier. The other day I realized I only had one of her pacifiers in the "clean container".....I found three or four under her bed :) Elizabeth loves to play with shoes especially my tennis shoes and gets so excited when I put them on. She loves my birkenstocks as well, but I don't like to let her play with them because they are 13 years old....who knows what could be on them?! E loves her bed and is so good about waiting for me to come and get her whether it is from her nap or in the morning, and she is always so happy to see us when she wakes up. She is a happy baby and thinks funny faces are hysterical! She sounds like a grown-up when she laughs at our funny faces....such a cute cackle...reminds me of her Poppy. Elizabeth looks exactly like her daddy, and people notice it right away whenever he is holding her. She still clings to me and likes me in the room with her. Now that she is crawling she will follow me whenever I leave the room. I love to hear her hands patter on the hardwood floors....such a sweet sound. Her favorite food right now is strawberry bananas, and she doesn't seem to have a "full spot" when eating them. I recently tried giving Elizabeth formula in her cup, but she refused it. I decided to continue formula in the bottle and introduce whole milk in her cup in a couple of weeks. She does well drinking juice from her cup. Her favorite toys include board books and a duck from a farm puzzle/toy.

What about Thomas? He is really pullling away from Elizabeth in terms of their sizes. He weighs a little over twenty pounds while she weighs 17 pounds and 4 ounces. He drinks around three more ounces than she does per day though their solids are about the same. Thomas has started rolling over to sleep on his stomach which is SO weird! He has always preferred his back until recently. One morning I went to get the twins up from their morning nap, and Thomas was on his tummy looking as if he were swimming in a pool with his legs and arms kicking and moving at the same time. Since then he seems to roll onto his tummy after kicking on his back for awhile. He ABSOLUTELY LOVES his bed and squeals with delight whenever we lay him down. That is so comforting to both of us. Thomas no longer has his bumper pads either, but he was never one to cuddle up to them. He just recently started moving around in his bed while sleeping. Thomas likes to be put in Elizabeth's bed whenever he wakes up. He will sit up in her bed and just laugh and talk. She likes to go into his bed as well. Thomas continues to prefer standing up and has not shown much interest in crawling. He is reaching more for toys that are out of his reach and gets frustrated when he can't reach them. Thomas loves to pat his own belly while playing and continues to clap his hands. His favorite food? He likes most food -- HaHa!-- I don't think I can pick just one favorite for him. He likes bananas, Blueberry Buckle, vanilla custard, sweet potatoes, etc. I have started feeding them my yogurt instead of mixing baby food with plain yogurt. They like it better -- I'm sure because it has more sugar in it. It has bits of fruit in it so I figure it is good for teaching them how to move food around and begin to learn to chew. So far they seem to be tolerating the lactose. He is doing quite well drinking juice out of his sippy cup. I plan on trying whole milk in a couple of weeks. Thomas' favorite toys are board books, a farm puzzle/toy, and blocks. He screams at Elizabeth whenever she takes something from him, but she usually screams back. It is quite fun to watch.

It is amazing how much babies grow and develop in their first year of life. Thomas and Elizabeth have certainly come a long way since their birth. They are very happy babies who make us laugh every day, and we can't imagine life without them.

We are gearing up for their first birthday party and plan to have lots of family and some friends. More on that later.

We need an eleven year old...

Last weekend we had a bustling household....more so than usual. On Friday, Amanda, my best friend from home, and her daughter Hannah Beth drove from Arkansas for a visit. It was the first time either of them had been to South Carolina let alone our house. Gramps, Grandmother Jane, and Belle (their black lab) drove over on Saturday in their new motor home. They parked "the bus" in the cul de sac and plugged her up to our house....sounds funny doesn't it? It was really very nice. No complaints from the neighbors either. We also had a surprise visit from Donna and Jason who are some good friends from Georgia who now live in Charlotte. They brought their new baby Grayson who was born in December. They stopped by our house on their way to Charleston. I was so surprised and very happy to see them. Donna and I worked together in GA....miss her and the job. Anyway, we had a wonderful weekend with all of our guests. The twins are getting so much better when we have company in that they aren't as timid.

Thomas and Elizabeth LOVED Hannah Beth! They went right to her when she arrived which is quite rare. Typically they cling to me -- E more than T -- when we have company until they have time to warm up. Not with Hannah Beth or Amanda. They would reach for them --- something they have only done to David and I so far. Who knew an eleven year old could be SO helpful? Hannah Beth changed diapers, fed the babies table food, burped them at Baboo time, got them dressed, etc. You name it....she did it. It was so nice! T and E loved every minute of her visit. I think they missed her when she and Amanda left.

I told David we need to buy an eleven year old :)

More standing

Elizabeth pulled to stand in her crib this morning! She works so hard all day long.

Thomas had some good tummy time last night before bed. He pushed himself up higher than he ever has.

Wish I could write more....gotta go.

update

Elizabeth is crawling EVERYWHERE! Up until the end of last week she would only crawl on the rug or carpet -- would stop when she got to the hardwood. Now she is everywhere! Yesterday I had to spat her little hand for getting on the stairs. Afterwards she would crawl to the stairs and look back at me. Ah....learning "no" is so hard....hard for grown ups as well. This morning she pulled to stand on the exersaucer all by herself. She has been pulling to her knees while in her crib but got to her feet today. Life in the Hopkins' House is getting busier each day.

Thomas loves to watch his sister crawl. He gets so excited and talks and laughs while watching her. He loves to stand but has not tried pulling himself to stand. All in his own time.....

I got the twins' birthday party invitations in the mail over the weekend, and David and I plan to get started on them tonight. We are going to have mostly family and a few of our friends over. I found out over the weekend that my aunt is going to bring Franny and Grandaddy to the party. I am so glad they are going to be able to come! They have not been to our house yet and don't get to see the twins enough. That pretty much means my whole family will be here. Thanks, Aunt Peg!

It is so hard to believe they are almost one year old. We have had such a good year.